When our children are small, we as parents want to protect them from everything. As they grow their experiences, physical, emotional and mental also grow. Your children need this growth. But as parents we want to continue to protect them from everything we perceive as harmful in anyway. Some of these things are from their own decisions, some are because of the actions of others, some are because life just happens. The only way for our children to grow is to learn to deal with all of life's crap is to go through this stuff. The only thing we can do is try to guide them through the mine field.
The older they get the tougher the experience. Even as a parent of adult children your instinct is to protect them from hurt, anxiety, and grief. It is heartbreaking to stand by and just hold their hand, knowing how hard life can be.
In my younger years I too had to go through the difficulties of life. And even though I've been through some tough stuff, I can offer advice and counsel but it still won't ease the pain of heartbreak. I know my children will be better stronger adults with the ability to help others after having to deal with crap. But being a bystander is just plain painful.
I hope we can all find some peace through the trials of life.
Until next week.